Domestic abuse: the key signs and how to spot it early
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As part of the national 16 days of activism against gender-based abuse, we are helping Derbyshire spot the signs of domestic abuse.
Spotting the signs is key to identifying any abuse that may be ongoing, and ensuring victims get the right support they need.
Destructive criticism and verbal abuse - shouting/mocking/accusing/name calling/verbally threatening.
Disrespect: persistently putting you down in front of other people; not listening or responding when you talk; interrupting your telephone calls; taking money from your purse without asking; refusing to help with childcare or housework.
Breaking trust: lying to you; withholding information from you; being jealous; having other relationships; breaking promises and shared agreements.
Isolation: monitoring or blocking your telephone calls; telling you where you can and cannot go; preventing you from seeing friends and relatives.
Harassment: following you; checking up on you; opening your mail; repeatedly checking to see who has telephoned you; embarrassing you in public.
Threats: making angry gestures; using physical size to intimidate; shouting you down; destroying our possessions; breaking things; punching walls; wielding a knife or a gun; threatening to kill or harm you and the children.
Denial: saying the abuse doesn’t happen; saying you caused the abusive behaviour; being gentle and patient in public; crying and begging for forgiveness; saying it will never happen again.
If you are experiencing any of these, support is available.
All reports will be taken seriously and we are committed to listening to victims and their feedback to provide the very best service to victims of domestic abuse. Find out more about how you can report domestic abuse at: Report domestic abuse | Derbyshire Constabulary